Hi, I found your writing really interesting and positive. I'm incomplete and due to damage I use a chair outside and walk in home when spasm dictates I can. I was shocked to enter sci to find quite a few (no-one here) who say I'm a chair faker pretending to be a complete injury. Sadly some completes think walking is similar to that before they got injured or is 'the great cure, I'm ungrateful'. I found it pointless to defend myself afterall, all I am doing is telling them a dream is not all its made up to be in some cases.Of course I'm going to be attacked by some. I'm not going to judge a healthy lady whom enjoys using a chair, when lots in society get in a car to drive to a shop around the corner, shes simply using wheels in similar way. Maybe she does not care for the exercise riding a bike.I feel that if she can share the positives of being in a chair then others maybe helped to overcome the basic issues of image, abuse and rejection this can cause. I would prefer to have others in a chair setting a good example to society than some actual chair users whom growl at people who smile at them, hold doors open etc and give the impression that no one ought to be kind to chair users for fear they will be growled at. Of course their are those whom abuse, intimidate,ignore us in chairs as tough we have easily trasferable diseses by the power of eye contact. Yet maybe this can be due to negative feedback they have experienced by some growling chair user who acted, as if being asked if they would like help was the equivalent of telling them they were the ugliest person in the world. Its not just sci who use chairs, its them with arthritis, MS, lung diseases.....sci dont own the rights to use a chair. If the lay had tried to damge herself to get sci on purpose then I think it wuld be time to call in the psychiatric team. If not, and its her way to get attention then I feel sad for her, not insulted or angry. I am now known as the lady in the chair, the crip. Thats ok. I dont think its any more shocking a title than someone who has been model to be called, 'Mary the one who used to be a model; but now weighs 25 stone'..no matter how much good she would have done for the commnity....its how the world operates. I love my wheels much more than acceptence from others. I am me, and in my body is a injury. Not Me the Injured one. I'm the one who has to live with my mind 24/7....as long as I know who I am, is the only thing I need to know. Anyone else who relises this, well they are just a bonus in our lives.