there is a chapter in my new book: "The Wisdom We're Born With…" Entitled "out of nowhere". In it, I describe how the wheel that broke my neck came out of nowhere as did my sisters cancer and my fall from my wheelchair.
On the other hand, every time I have met an interesting woman, that seems to have come out of nowhere also.
I just did an interview for this webpage about online dating for people with disabilities
. That is always an option. When I did it years ago, I had to decide whether to say up front I was acquired or wait until we talked a few times. I decided to wait and most of the women I was chatting with became invisible. I was heartbroken.
And then I realized something. My heart has been broken dozens of times over the course of these six decades and every single time it breaks-it heals. Every time it hurts-it gets better. So we can all be less afraid of getting hurt and be more willing to take risks.
Bill, ask one of these women out on a date. Tell her the truth-that underneath all the playful flirting, you really do find her attractive. The worst thing that could happen would be for her to reject you. You might be embarrassed and you might be hurt. I know I would. But just remember all the other times that happened. You recovered.
We guys have been taught to be strong and not to show our vulnerability or our tender sides. Remember, this topic is about sexual intimacy. The only way you can be truly intimate in a relationship is to be vulnerable with one another. If you are strong enough and courageous enough to open your heart to her, it could scare her away or she could find it very attractive.
Enjoy the adventure bill!