both of you talked about simply noticing and experiencing the world around you. There is something we learn from tragedy. Paul Simon once said "the way we look to a distant constellation that's dying in the corner of the sky". All of us who have experienced that light of lour lives flickering, after the shock, the disbelief,, the shame and the grief, we come to realize how fragile and held precious this thing called life really is..
You guys have literally smelled the roses!
I recently told a friend of mine that I was going to take the PhD away after my name and replace it with: NYD. When he asked me what that stood for, I said "not yet dead!". Of course it was a joke but it's also a reminder that I am grateful to still be living (of course, I'm not so sure my insurance carrier feels the same way!)