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    By Deni   
    Hi, my name is D And I'm from Indonesia. It has been two years ever since i cant use the lower half of my body. Before  i got into this condition, life was treating me well. i have a day job that i really love, i use to play gig around town on weekends with my band, i have a very loving family, and a steady relationship with my girlfriend for seven years. Everything went wrong a day after my wedding. We went to a honeymoon in Bali when i suddenly couldn't feel the lower half of my body. I went home on a wheelchair, and was hospitalized for four months. The doctor doesn't know what my illness is. Now i couldn't enjoy life like i used to. I went to dinner with my wife on her birthday and people would stare at us. She tries to hide her feeling in front of me and kept on smiling but i know deep inside she's suffering. I cant stand to see our life crumbling like this.
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    Jama  says:
    Hey Deni!

    I spent two weeks in Indonesia before I broke my back. I started in Jakarta then went to visit the temples in Jogyjakarta and finally spent a week all over Bali. It's probably the most beautiful country in the world. 

    But I can imagine it's not very handicapped accessible. One thing I remember is that everybody used bicycles. I think this could be the answer to you feeling better. After I broke my back friends of mine bought me a hand cycle. I've been riding one now for more than 15 years. It makes me much healthier and my girlfriend loves what it does for my body!  With all the bike welders in Indonesia, this would be easy to make. You can look on-line for designs. Good welders would love to make one for you. They love projects like this. 

    Look into it! Hand cycling changed my life!!!

    Bali Bagus!

    Tom
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    prc_donnal  says:
    Hi, Deni!

    Welcome here!

    I'm so sorry to hear that you and your wife had to deal with such rude people. Because that
    is what they are.

    You are still the same person you were before your illness; you may just have to find new ways of doing things or other ways to enjoy outings with your wife and/or friends.

    I think the handcycling suggestion is a great one!

    I am an information specialist at the PRC and I have a spinal cord injury, C4-5-6.

    If you would like, I can send you our new injury package  information and resources on spinal cord injury for individuals who are newly injured.

    Please let me know if you would like me to email/send it to you.

    My email address is dlowich@christopherreeve.org

    Sincerely,

    Donna


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    Deni  says:
    Hi Jama and Donna, yes as you can see the cities in Indonesia is not handicapped friendly. A hand cycle might be a great idea. im thinking of ways to exercise, tried Yoga and stretching.
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