Linda I am sorry to here about the recent events that have been taking place. I can't imagine what must be going thru you mind at this point. But you have to believe that he will pull thru this and maybe this will be your christmas present. He' is going to be just fine and he will be back to his old self in no time you'll see. I had a similar experience not as bad when I was in rehab with blood clots. My left leg blew up 6 inches larger than the right in a matter of four hours. Things just take time to get back to normal. His body is not the same as it used to be and things take longer to heal. As far as getting your house asssible get with your local independent living center. They can help with wheel chair ramps and home modifications that you may need. They can also help with nursing care and direct you to some financial resoares. I would love to stay in contact with you to hear how your son does . If you would like to contact me my e-mail is firstname.lastname@example.org
I will try to help as best I can and if I can't I may know someone who does know the answer to your questions.