I know what you're going through I was hit by an IED two years ago crushing my spine at the T-5. There’s a set of videos on the christopherreeve.org site called sex on wheels http://bcove.me/d189opwm is the first video I wish I had seen right away it helped me deal with allot. As for sex the VA prescribed me Vardenafil a form of Levitra and with that as long as it stays stimulated it stays hard. I also got the Ferti-Care vibrator you can only get it by prescription with that after you come out of spinal shock you can ejaculate and maybe orgasm I haven’t orgasmed yet but came real close one time. Things to consider.

In your other post I should have said that I've been doing this for over 21 yrs and you will always have ups and downs.  (pun intended)  But, anyway with this one I'd say you need a date.  You need to have a sense of humour about this.  She will need a sense of humour also.  I've gotten so I just say "I'm broken and that part doesn't work that great right now".  Thats about it.  If you are with the right person that takes the pressure off you can relax and sometimes things work good.  If all else fails just see the docotor(who also should have a sense of humour) lay it out that you've got a yummy date and this is what ou want too try etc...  They will almost always say yes as long as you aren't a health risk for some other reason.  Look at it like an adventure or like your a kid learning something new and for some weird twisted reason you like or at least don't mind.  Have you ever had too start a weed wacker?  After about 90 pull's it works! 

I can get hard just can't feel it that's my problem...

Well, you've got more going for you than most if you can feel anything.   Just don't giveup on it.

Remember you're still a new injury and just coming out of spinal shock give it time. I’m at two years and I’m still having some new sensations coming back. But I highly recommend the Ferti-Care it’s given me the most sensation.

How much does the ferti-care cost, hey Jack give me a call so we can talk, about all this please , the name is Greg. 610 xxx-xxxx'

From a female's perspective... remember there are many ways to be intimate and feel satisfied. Pick up a copy of "The Ultimate Guide to Sex & Disability" -- there's tons of suggestions in there, so one (or more) of them has to work... and it should be loads of fun trying :) But I agree with those who say you shouldn't get discouraged... you just need to find new, exciting ways to feel and give pleasure. Besides, most of seduction and pleasure are matters of the mind anyway... think about it (pun intended). Best of luck.

thanks Millieg78 will be picking up that book and your comment about matters of the mind is on point

Experiment, Experiment, Experiment.  Try to have a partner that you are comfortable with because that takes some of the stress out of the equation.  Also, try to stay in the moment and enjoy what is happening as it happens.  If you focus on trying to get that one thing done you end up missing out on all the good stuff.  My upper body is a million times more sensitive since my accident.  So foreplay is HUGE for me.  You'd be surprised when you find a good spot on the upper half of your body how it it feels like it transfers through your whole body.

Greg,

My spinal colum ingery was in 2010 Sept 20th.  Should I give myself more time?  Bruce in Carrboro, NC.

Bruce, Everyone is different but I will people still tell me that I'm in spinal shock

I think what is really important here is to be frank from the get go - YOU WILL NOT CUM! Once you start from that perspective, anything else is a bonus. If you start from the idea that eventually you will have a normal sex life you're going to be really disappointed. 

But if you take the benefits of sharing the intimacy, laughing, sweating etc. then all in all it's a really great time. The biggest problem is finding a really patient partner who is willing to put up with the 'viagra delay' - and all the possibilities of potential bowel, bladder stuff that might happen. It takes a really special person - one that  I haven't found on a consistent basis yet, but I'm still out there trying!

Does viagra work?  My urologist gave me a sample of cialis, but it didn't work.

Yes, it work 100mg for me an give it about 45 mins to the hour...

That's not true, I kno a lot of people with sci that do cum so it depends on ur injury and how far you are in.

That's all great if you get it back, but don't start thinking it's going to happen. Start by thinking it will never happen and everything after that is a bonus. It is VERY rare that people recover full sexual function. 

Vitamin V baby!

Hi I Agree with millieg78.
I recently started dating someone who has been in a wheel chair for 30 years.Never have before dated some one with such a disability is a learning experience.
He uses the word scary....
I just say you have to have a open mind and a open Heart....
smiles

Wassup bro IM new to the sci and I can relate right with you It's going on 7 months since my injury I'm a t7. It's been hard for me I don't know what to do So f

Hey - just came across a product called 'Eyeful' that works like a charm. Half the price of Viagra, don't need a prescription and it has zero side effects. Actually had to go to an adult video store to buy it, but it works great.