Learning that you, a family member or friend has gotten a spinal cord injury is devastating and overwhelming news.
I've read the replies to your question and you've gotten some good advice. One thing that was not suggested is that it's possible your daughter may have developed RSD (Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy). It's a chronic nerve disorder that occurs after an injury usually, and it can be triggered by a nerve injury. Because you've mentioned that you feel your daughter is probably depressed (a perfectly natural reaction to what she's going through) RSD occurred to me since the sympathetic nervous system -- the nervous system that links our emotions with our physical health-- is a trigger as well.
This is a very real disease that is often overlooked. I had a minor ankle injury in my adolescence that led to temporary paralysis in my leg. At the time I recall I was accused of faking it by a few people when they were having trouble finding out why I was having so much pain moving my leg. Thank god for my family, who were supportive the entire time. It turned out to be a physical therapist at Children's Hospital of Philadelphia who diagnosed the RSD and then we were able to treat it. I was pretty much symptom free for many years but it reappeared after I was in a catastrophic motor vehicle accident decades later. My arm was paralyzed in the accident and the RSD showed again in that paralyzed arm.
The RSD is just one possibility among many, as is nerve bruising, tearing, or anything else that this group presents to you. The most important things you can gather are to see specialists such as neurologists, physical therapists, and a counselor for both your daughter and the whole family. You remind me of my dad, who is a really caring father as well, but also kept insisting that "he was fine" when he could've used some counseling help in dealing with my spinal cord injuries. You need to support your daughter, trust her and believe her, for even if you feel like she could do more there has to be be a reason she isn't. Whether or not that reason is physical or psychological, they are both of equal importance and weight when factoring into her health. Traumatic injuries and surgeries are life altering for adults, for children and teenagers they are even more difficult. Make sure you manage your expectations and keep them realistic, they are likely going to change. It's obvious that the "two weeks 'till walking" isn't going to happen, and you don't want to pressure her too much. I'm sure you love her a lot or you wouldn't be on this message board, so you're trying your best to be a great dad and that's wonderful.
I was hoping to hear some news about your daughter, it has been quite a while and am hoping that you are still following this discussion. We still care.
I am a violent crime survivor coupled with a bad epidural to my spine that completed the paralysis on my right side. I cannot lift my right leg, move my foot/toes/bend my knee, NOTHING! I have been through what I consider to be every test known to mankind and I can assure you that your daughter is NOT faking this. Every person has a different way that their body handles their injury and while I am the furthest thing from a MD that you can find, I can tell you without a doubt that sometimes the nerves around the spine are damaged so badly that portions of ones body no longer function as they should and in fact do quite the opposite of what we are telling it to do in our minds..... I have had this paralysis on my right side for 3 plus years now (my original injury occurred in 1989) and no one can tell me or my doctors what is going on. I can assure you she is not faking this, she needs you to be super understanding, loving, caring, believe in her, support her, praise her for wriggling her toes, for trying to move even if nothing works. Do NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES walk up to or around your precious child with an attitude that you dont believe her or are suspicious of her or you will find you have more problems then you could imagine - of one thing you can be certain - that girl is terrified pure and simply and these other things happening to her body are scaring her as well - find an excellent pediatric psychiatrist to talk to her and to you - you both will get a wealth of suport that way and of course write here on this forum. My mama recently had two of her discs slip and she has to now use a cane/walker/probably wheelchair. I have tried to educate her for the past 3 years since the paralysis about what was happening to me and only until she experienced the pain and misery that she is now having for herself up close and really personally she kept coming at me with making me think this was all in my head. Now I can tell you she is asking me to help her figure out what to do as she has definitely seen the light. My point here is that there are things that do not turn up on the myriad of scans/tests/probes we are subjected to but they are very very real... I will pray for your daughter Georgie, but please trust me on this - your daughter is terrified, in pain, doesnt know what to do/say/make of any of this and just knows that you are questioning her as well is not a good road to go down. Give her the benefit of trusting that she is in a situation where noone can find a cause. I have had tons of tests at the Mayo/Shands, etc., route and not one of them is able to state what happened, but I know what happened as I was there on that table the day my freedom was taken and I got sentenced to what I consider to be a life sentence of solitude with no hope of parole or probation.... Let me know if I can be of any assistance to her and to you!
i don't think she's faking it, she displays all the symptoms of a spinal cord injury. granted a higher sci. i too was hyper sensitive for a while after my injury, couldn't cough well and had troubles lifting my arms. i'm a c6-7 incomplete. if she has to be cathed and digitally stimulated to go to the bathroom, she has definite issues with her spinal cord. i'll say a prayer for you and her.