What are your everyday thoughts, questions, concerns, successes, and challenges?
That is a GREAT attitude, Gene! Insistent, unsolicited assistance really hacks me off too, as in most cases, especially when getting my chair into our vehicles, the "help" is cumbersome, time-consuming, and typically winds up making the experience more difficult than it needs to be. But making somebody feel good about themselves is one of the best gifts one human being can give to another -- giving by graciously receiving, I call it. One upside to this sitting life is that we, as PWDs, get to see a side of humanity that most ABs don't. So, when I get that simple offer of assistance that I may not need, I always respond with something like, "I'm in pretty good shape, but thanks so much for asking!" so as not to discourage them from asking the next person they see in what they perceive as difficulty.
I really appreciate folks offering to help. I am c4 incomplete and I cannot tell you how many times I have heard "you look so normal". My arms from the elbow down and my legs from the knees down are my problem. I can stand, but I cannot walk. I can move all of my fingers but I cannot grip anything, in fact I cannot use a manual chair. People, including family, have a hard time believing I cannot do a lot of things and the things I can do are extremely painful. So when others offer the help, I take it. I am only 2 yrs post injury and am in hope of continuing recovery but in the meantime.... my thanks to those who "help '!