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Hello Jason, Excellent post. It is true the general public has no idea what we go through. I have met many who want to help but never know how. I have had many also tell me, you look good in the chair and life must be treating you well. That always strikes a nerve. Well I wish you the best. Take care Best Regards, Joe
Thanks Joe. As a c5/6 quad, I have had many incidents involving the well meaning but unfortunately, mistake prone individuals. They seem to irk me far less than the ones that see me as their coat rack with a heartbeat though. lol
You really had me smiling and laughing about an incident last year. We took our son to an aquarium/zoo and a lady was leaning on my push handles . It was annoying. I said please stop that and she looked at me as if I was the bad guy. Able bodies are a piece of work these days. Take care, I wish you well. best regards, Joe
I know all too well! Just wait until they start using you as an anchor. By that I mean grabbing hold of your chair to pull themselves up out of their seat or off the floor. And then there is the uhaul bunch that insist on you carry everything in your lap. They won't ask. Just drop it on in there. Bro, let me tell you. My crotch has taken it's fair share of abuse from that crowd over the years. My balls are about ready to file a restraining order against me. lol.
I know the general public are a pain in the A--. You have me laughing hard. I have been out of commission over six years and every day is always a new experience. Hopefully they will put us together someday so we can look back and just laugh. take care
You for got #6 Having an AB tell you to fallow them upstairs/curbs/steep hills/ect
I really like that you guys have found kindred spirits in one another, I would like to see you get together and have a few laughs. It would be very therapeutic. Also, if I could rewrite the 10 Commandments,, one of them would be "thou shalt not take thyself too seriously". And laughter would be the best way to honor that commandment.
On the other hand, like it or not, when we are in public we are teachers. And we teach not with our words but with our actions and our attitudes.. People who deal with us in public will be learning something about disability,, wheelchairs,, who we are and who we are not.
What do we need them to learn and how can we teach that?