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    <title>Healing the Mind and Heart-Remembering Christine</title>
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I first met Christine through this discussion about a year ago. A beautiful young woman, an artist who was injured in 2005 as a result of a diving accident. This all happened at the kind of party very young people have and Christine blamed herself for becoming a quadriplegic. And so she suffered.<br />
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And she suffered because she couldn&#39;t envision having quality of life with all of her difficulties with her bowels and pain and all of the other issues that go with quadriplegia.<br />
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Nevertheless she fought tenaciously to have the quality of life that she needed to survive.<br />
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We spoke through public discussions, and we spoke through private e-mail correspondence. And she became clear that she did not want to suffer anymore.<br />
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She told me in the spring that she was going to visit her mother in Florida to say goodbye and when she got home she was going to consult hospice and refuse food and medication.<br />
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My first reaction was to try to save her life. I reacted not as a psychologist, but quadriplegic who understood that suffering and knew that what feels intolerable can become tolerable. I reacted as a father who couldn&#39;t bear the idea that someone I cared about so much wanted to take her life.<br />
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We continued our correspondence briefly and even spoke on the phone. When I got past my own distress, I could see she was clear about what she wanted to do and even seen at peace with it. There was no anger or even despair. Just a thoughtful reflective decision.<br />
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As a psychologist, I wanted more time to listen to her, to hold her life. As a moral man, I wanted to step back and allow her respect her wishes.<br />
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Last week I was notified that Christine passed away just as she had planned. I had mixed feelings. I was glad she was no longer suffering. But the other emotions I felt I couldn&#39;t quite identify until I remembered an event that took place many years ago in California.<br />
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I was visiting a dear friend of mine and she took me to see the redwoods for the first time in my life. I was in awe as I witnessed these massive structures when my friend said: &quot;you know Dan for such big trees, they have shallow roots systems.&quot; I asked her how they were able to get their stability: &quot;These trees tend to grow in clusters and their root systems interlock, that&#39;s how they get their stability.&quot;<br />
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When I heard about Christine, I felt a bit less stability. I wish her and her family peace. I wish that for all of us.]]></description>
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      <description><![CDATA[Blake, I appreciate your thoughtful reflection. Thank you. Of course you can use my post however you like.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Tue, 20 Dec 2011 19:14:19 GMT</pubDate>
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	<span style="font-size: 12px">a few weeks ago I started a dialogue with a man named william peace. it was he who brought this young woman&#39;s plight to my attention.&nbsp; as a fellow psychologist my first thoughts were what did her therapist say&nbsp; (if she had one). then as you I felt if she were sound enough to make the decision, it was not any one persons job to change her mind.&nbsp; in my opinion the only course was to respect her wishes.&nbsp; after writing about this young woman in my blog I had expected to have some highly emotional responses. to my surprise that has not happened.&nbsp; as a fellow human being I can&nbsp;only believe that she made the correct choice for her. no one&nbsp;else can know her suffering and ability to carry on with that suffering.&nbsp; thank you for sharing your information and insight. if you have no obection, your article will be referenced in my blog (thedrsays.org) so that readers may read your article and get first-hand knowledge of this young woman life and death.&nbsp; again, thank you for&nbsp;sharing with &nbsp;those of us who wanted to know what has happened to christina.</span></p>
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      <description><![CDATA[Hi there,<br />
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Just an FYI, this is <a href="http://www.spinalcordinjury-paralysis.org/tskushi21">Christina&#39;s profile</a> here in the community. She went by Chrissy here I believe. Also, <a href="http://bcove.me/6xmwlg1h">a link to a video of her</a> on our site as well. She will surely be missed. ]]></description>
      <pubDate>Fri, 16 Dec 2011 19:55:02 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>JLo</dc:creator>
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      <description><![CDATA[I did not know Christine, however it&nbsp; saddens me much&nbsp;to know that so much despair can co-exist in ones soul. I tried looking for Christine&#39;s profile and could not find it, I guess I needed to see her picture and remember her face so that I will never forget how precious we all are.&nbsp; I take comfort believing &nbsp;her soul is&nbsp; free and in peace.<br />
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      <pubDate>Fri, 16 Dec 2011 03:59:48 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>paris 85</dc:creator>
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      <description><![CDATA[Thank you for this Dan, we also talked a lot and met in Kessler, I will miss her. ]]></description>
      <pubDate>Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:59:54 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>Richard</dc:creator>
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      <description><![CDATA[I traded correspondence with Christine several times.&nbsp; I also injured my&nbsp;spinal cord&nbsp;in a diving accident, and while I am considered quadriplegic, I have substantial use of my limbs and none of the bowel and bladder problems that haunted Christine.&nbsp; I am so sad to hear of her passing, but I know her spirit was in great pain.&nbsp; I believe that this existence is just one step in a much longer journey.&nbsp; I hope the next part of Christine&#39;s journey is a happier one.&nbsp; ]]></description>
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      <dc:creator>Bob</dc:creator>
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      <description><![CDATA[There really aren&#39;t words.]]></description>
      <pubDate>Fri, 09 Dec 2011 06:16:43 GMT</pubDate>
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      <description><![CDATA[In reading about such instances, there&#39;s a tendency to ask &#39;why couldn&#39;t this person endure this--like I do?&#39; In reality, I probably&nbsp;wouldn&#39;t even be here today&nbsp;if not for the support of my loving family, friends, dedicated docs and the peers I&#39;ve met and learned from nationwide. May Christine rest in peace, and hopefully this provides us the incentive to remind our &#39;grove&#39; how important they are to us in this holiday season--and beyond.<br />
Mike]]></description>
      <pubDate>Thu, 08 Dec 2011 23:02:59 GMT</pubDate>
      <dc:creator>RoboDad</dc:creator>
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      <description><![CDATA[Dan.......reading your post about Christine broke my heart. I am also happy that she is no longer suffering. But......I also feel a bit less stable......no........alot less stable. Warmest regards.....Norma]]></description>
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