Dan Gottlieb said:
Many people have misinterpreted my intent with this post and see me as being negative or despairing.
Saralee is correct when she says her interpretation is the opposite. I'll explain.
I've given lectures and workshops on the topic of "hope, hopelessness and healing." And this discussion brings the issue of hope, which most people say they cannot live without. If you think about it, hope is a vision about some future experience that we feel we must have. So let's think about what happens if we realize that vision. Typically we might feel relieved, vindicated or some other emotion. But we rarely feel a sense of well-being-and that's what we were proud of me striving for in the first place. We tell ourselves that when we finally realize what we hoped for, we will have a sense of well being.
And look at the other side of the formula. If we don't realize what we hoped for, we might feel a sense of despair, grief or fear.
Hope and hopelessness are mirror images of one another. Both grasp a vision for the future. Hope hold on to the vision often out of anxiety that this life we have today will not change. Hopelessness is about despair and anger that what we held onto is being pulled from our grasp.
So what's the alternative? Simply being open to whatever comes next with a sense of faith in our own resilience and a sense of well-being that something deep inside will help give us stability even in the midst of hurricane.
In a cornerstone in a museum in Tel Aviv:
"To remember the past, to live in the present and to trust the future"