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    Why?
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    I am trying so hard to understand why? What does this mean? What now? How do I make this work? I am trying very hard to accept this new life.  SCI has changed verything...my dreams, hope and vision for the future. I 'm a loving wife and care giver. I am a mother and a daughter; I am a child of this universe! Where do I go from here?


     


    After surgery due to a benign tumor inside the spine, my husband of 25 years is a T4 complete paraplegic, I am trying so hard to take care of his personal needs.. not much time if any, for me... Is it possible to hope for a long life? Will we be able to be grandparents and grow old together?...please can someone who has been in this condition for a longer time than us, tell me is this dream still possible?


     


    It has been 18 months for us and I want to believe.......... I suppose living for today is a good thing, which we do!! but, what about tomorrow? Is there a tomorrow?   


     


    Hope, I can hear from many of you. I have much to give..there is goodness and kindness in me! Right now..I also need, helping souls!! Hope you find your way to me..


     


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    Ivonne,

    you have asked all of the right questions -- what does this mean? What now? How do I live with today and how do I plan for tomorrow? All the right questions, but they can only be answered in hindsight. One day, after the shock and grief have diminished a bit, you will look in the rearview mirror of your life and see how you have been living with this and what it has meant to you.



    But for now, you must manage what needs to be managed and you simply have to feel what you can tolerate feeling. In Alcoholics Anonymous they say "one day at a time", but in crisis, sometimes it is one hour at a time. So if you can visualize getting through just this next hour, and then repeat it for the next one, you might be better off.



    I have said often on these pages that the great pain of trauma -- the greatest pain, is the alienation that comes in the wake of it. Whether you are in a wheelchair or caring for one, all of a sudden we feel alone in this world like no one can understand us.



    There is something about our spirit that drives us towards life, in the same way that plants and trees are drawn to the sun, we are drawn towards wholeness. I know that doesn't make any sense to you right now let's look at what you've done so far. You have reached out to a community who you know understands. You have to open your heart to us and talked of your pain. You have had the courage and clarity to ask for our help and you will get it.



    You will get lots of advice (and some may be helpful!). But most of all, you will get compassion and understanding. You will find kindred spirits who has been where you are. You will find some who still suffer many years later and others who have found a way back to their lives despite the adversity. You will hear many of our stories.



    And for now, I'd like to hear a little more about yours. How old are you and your husband? Are you able to talk together, grief together, plan together? And most important, who were you before all this happened?



    And as far as a long life is concerned, I am a C5-6 quadriplegic and my accident was 30 years ago. I am now 64 years old -- old enough to repeat stories over and over again!



    Just one question you asked that can only cause pain. If you want to ask "why" after a tragedy, then you should also ask "why me" when you realize that you are loved, you love, you have resources that many don't have. So if you want to say "why do I deserve this suffering?" You must also say "what have I done to deserve these gifts."



    I am so glad you have joined this community and hope you receive everything you need from us



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    Dear Dr Dan,


     


    I am so happy to hear from you, I have being keeping up to date with your postings. You are truly, a light in the night for me.


     


    My husband Thierry and I are 51 years old, we love each other, always have, we have being blessed with a great marriage, we talk, and plan and hope for the future, always did .  Needless is to say that we have good days and some not so ... We have a 23 years daughter, who just graduated from the university recently. We have hopes and dreams and we want to grow old together. Oh, what a wonderful thing this would be!! We want to be grandparents; we want life, love, and hope and have fun together. We want a tomorrow.


     


    About pain...Well, I will speak for me, as a care giver 24/7...it is so very difficult, physically, emotionally and spiritually.  For me, the emotional and spiritual part has being the hardest... But, will keep believing God loves me and this enormous challenge have been giving to me because, He knows I can endure it. Sometimes, I can't help thinking, He forgot about me. 


     


    I often ask God why?


     


    When, I think about our lives, I must say my world started and will end with this man, I so love. I have a choice to make and my choice is to live, hope and cherish every moment we have together. 


     


    I work from home now at days, take care of my small business knowing it is up to me to keep the financial part going to meet our bills.   I take care of my Thierry's physical needs and take pride in keeping him healthy. I take care of everything.   I worry about getting sick or worse, who will take care of him? Those are my thoughts, my concerns.  But, I try to stay away from thinking too much. I try to live today and cherish it, as if there is no tomorrow. Like Thierry always says, today is a present...enjoy it! 


     


    But, I want tomorrow. I want us...


     


    Dr Dan, you are an incredible man. You must have a great spirit!  How wise you are! Thank God for you. I can't be part of your Tuesdays' discussions, I am working then but, I hope you feel compel to continue talking to me. I sure need an understanding heart.


     


    Thank you for replying, I was ready to stop posting. I am so glad I did not give up.


     


    Regards, Ivonne


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    Next week will mark the my 5 year anniversary of my accident. I broke my neck in a diving accident, which subsequently left me paralyzed from my chest down (C5 complete). I still ask the question "Why?" every single day. It isn't a question we will ever get an answer to (at least not here on Earth; I'm keeping my fingers crossed on there being a Heaven). I think it's only natural to want reasons for something that is as devastating as paralysis. I often feel like, if I knew there was truly a purpose behind all of my suffering, I'd be able to cope better. Part of what makes life with paralysis so difficult, is the injustice of it all and the not knowing: Not knowing how long you'll be this way; not knowing if a cure will be found; no justification as to why. I know how creul it can seem. I cringe when I watch tv and see people purposely doing all kinds of extreme sports or activities and can't help but feel frustrated or angry, when I see someone do something completely reckless (like attempting a bicycle stunt off of a roof or getting thrown of a bull and stomped on) and they get up and walk away, as if it's no big deal. It seems do unfair that criminals do all sorts of horrific things and yet are blessed with healthy bodies.

    My perspective is the care receiver, while you're a care giver, but I can empathize with you. I see the pain and frustration of my loved ones and I know how hard it is to try to maintain "normal" relationships. Unfortunately, I have no answers as to why. I do know that a lot is possible, if you're willing to try. A lot of course, rests on your husband's outlook and how he copes with the loss and changes in his life. From the reverse perspective, I can imagine that if he can develop a positive attitude and chooses to keep moving forward, then that should give you all the more reason to do the same. You can give one another strength.

    I've written a lot about my thoughts & feelings on living with paralysis. I've given myself the purpose of advocating for a cure. I've exhibed art work, sat for interviews and participated in a couple of tv programs. I maintain a website dedicated to that purpose and I'm constantly looking for ways to stay busy and productive. As long as I feel like I'm being proactive, I feel like I'm creating something positive out of my situation. It

    helps me to believe that I'm helping make a difference in other people's lives and hopefully making a small impact on finding a cure. I don't ever want to feel that all my hard work and planning, prior to my injury, was for nothing, by wasting away in the present. So even though we might never get answers as to why life is, the way it is, I think we can find our purpose and give ourselves motivation to keep moving forward.

    I hope this helps a little bit. Please check out my website if you're interested: www.christinasymanski.com.
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    Last week on my way to the shore for the weekend I had an accident but didn't know it. So when I got to bed that evening, my groin was excoriated. I was nervous about what this all meant and why my system was not regulated. I didn't say "why me" I just felt sad and anxious fully conscious of my vulnerability.

    Woke up the following morning to see a beautiful sunrise over the ocean and realized what a blessing I was experiencing at that moment.

    The following night I was up all night with dysreflexia. Not only was I in physical distress, but I was concerned about what was causing it -- bowel or bladder. The next I was exhausted and worse, self-absorbed. I called my doctor and went on antibiotics. But because I was self-absorbed I missed most of that beautiful day until that evening.

    I went out for ice cream with my friend and her two-year-old son Jake who has become my best friend. I watched him enjoy his ice cream, play with the other kids and have a ball. Meanwhile, a five-year-old little boy named Quinn was very curious about my legs and why they didn't work. When he discovered that they would never get better, he asked me if I was sad and cried a lot. I said I really wasn't very sad and that actually I was very very happy. I told him that if I was not in a wheelchair I probably wouldn't get to have conversations with adorable little five year old boys who were curious.

    Accidents, excoriation, dysreflexia, beautiful sunrises, conversations with Quinn -- life the full catastrophe.

    What have I done to deserve this wealth?
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    This Memorial Day weekend, I encouraged my husband to dare and finally after 18 months after paralysis.. Dare to do more.. We rented a wheelchair accessible mini van and went from Miami (our home town) to Key Largo, Fla.  I wanted to bring part of our past to our present. I just wanted to feel things somehow were still the same. . We had a wonderful day and I felt so blessed... I know he was happy! I also was!


     


    Thierry, tried to go up the mini van ramp without me (I was getting things out from the trunk) I heard him call me and I found him on the ground. He was bleeding from the back of the head and I thought the worse.  In that moment, I called out to the Lord and said "please don't, I need him". He answered me because my Thierry turned out to be fine, needless is to say the paramedics came and he was fully checked. I drove back to Miami, so grateful, he was alive and fine.  I did not care anymore to stay for the night. things are not what they use to be but, we are still here..(I had prepared fully, with all he needed to have. I had worked so hard all week to make this happen). But, it did not matter any more. I had my husband, he was fine! Thank God...  Yes, Dr Dan, what have we have done to deserve this wealth?  So we live and we are grateful for the moments. We live, we love and life is a miracle we cherish.. We will never know why this is our lives now, not in this life time most likely but, we know our lives have meaning and each day is a blessing. Thank God for today and its miracles.  


     


        


     


           

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     Dear Dr Dan,


    I  read your posting for the second time tonight, I realized how your words  are similar to what my husband tells me about his physical distress.


    I see paralyzis thorugh my eyes as a care giver but, how about you? all of you  who are deadling with this.  


    The physciall stress on the body  must be so ,so very challanging..  I can only imagen.. but,  I will really  never trully know..


    I am glad you were able to enjoy a beautiful moment.  


    For me, I  will say, I will try my best to do the same each  time I can.


     

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    if you ever want to know more about want it's like to live with quadriplegia, feel free to ask whatever questions you like and I am happy to answer as I am sure many others will.

    Your curiosity is a gift. Thank you
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    dr gotlieb,

    i appreciate ur words re the question, "WHY?" & "WHY ME?"
    ur quote, "You must also say "what have I done to deserve these gifts." i totally agree & have received more blessings since sci than i'v the entire 46 yrs of my prior life. incredible blessings & gifts. thank you, deborah
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    ivonne, as soon as i read the part about "him trying to get up the ramp without me" i had to slap my hand on my forehead!! oh, how many times has my husband tried to do things without me and it has been a disaster!!! he had a 108 day hospital stay and was out in february and by june we went tent camping.....what an adventure THAT was!!! suffice it to say, we haven't been since!! we did make some great memories though. smiled through those tears.....
    we just tend to laugh at each other and shake our heads!!! (of course, that's AFTER i have gotten angry at his insistence and impatience!!)
    there have been so many times that i, and our two twenty-something daughters, have almost peed our pants laughing at some of the stuff he does!!! we as a family believe that humor is THE best medicine in all that happens post-injury. it has so much become the "norm" that all of our family and friends go with it too!! of course, like the good dr said, it IS who he was before!! just a bit different....
    my husband is seven years (eight in november of this year) out from a 30 foot fall off a bridge he was working on. he has a c-5/6 incomplete injury. i think the worse part for us can be how most people think he is fine because he is blessed to be able to walk, albeit not very well, and that makes them assume he is fine. he hates using the chair and quad cane and that tends to restrict how many things we "do". he is just now accepting that they are tools to help him live a more full life and that is all there is now....living as full a life as possible.
    he has constant nerve pain and     spasticity from the chest down that makes daily life very challenging. the gnawing pain wears on him. he tends to end his days miserable, but just goes and lays down to try and get "away" from the pain. he does have "accidents" on occasion, those can be sometimes a hit to his pride, but then he realizes that in the scheme of life, it wasn't so bad. he only has use of one of his hands and the other is about 60%. that tends to restrict him in many things.
    i have taught him how to meditate, he does his form of yoga (stretching) each morning, which helps. i also massage him almost every day to stimulate the skin so he feels something else other than pain. meds help but he doesn't like feeling deadheaded so he takes a few as possible.
    make SURE you try and take time for yourself with a yoga or meditation class or whatever you like to do. remember, you are the only one who can take care of you!!
    we came to the realization almost five years ago as to the "why".
    that was when i found a lump on my breast that was cancer. i knew then that he lived to help me to live, to see our first grandchild, charlie, born. and then his brother, dylan, too!!!     (i only knew my daughter was pregnant for a mere 8 days when i found the lump)charlie was born six months later..........i wish you the same blessings, when it's time of course!!!
    yes, you don't know the blessings without the pain......that's just how our life is. we do try to take every moment with peace now. you will come to feel this, i'm sure.
    we will be married for 28 years this august, i will be celebrating my 50th birthday next month, each and every one is important, don't let anyone tell you different!!!
    celebrate life each and every day.
    listen to great music.
    feel the breeze on your face.
    breath in the fresh air.
    touch each others' hand.
    eat great tasting and nutritious food.
    smile.
    cry.
    laugh.
    create.
    oh, and when he is ready, encourage him to do something he likes to do as a hobby.  creativity and self expression is very important to the self esteem!!!
    i hope this helps in some way and i haven't been too overbearing. i think this is the first time i have posted here, or one of the first times!!
    brightest blessings to you and your family,
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     Nanette, Yes, your mail is very helpfull, you are not overbearing. not at all!! the input is very welcome.  You have been dealing with this situation much longer than me. I appreciate your words and advice. 


     

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    There is no answer to why. We just do not know why, perhaps one day in another life, another dimension, we will know. I refuse to believe things as deep as this just happen at random. How can so much despair, pain, suffering and heart ache be just because.... Lets all remember that we can only really understand our souls with deep understanding of our emotions. The more we can endure the more we get it... What is the meaning of life, really what is it? Is it not to love. Let's love and believe things will get better. No matter what better is. And let's receive and give love. Then and only then we will know why.

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    Hi Dr Dan,


     


    Hope you are doing well. I am trying my best to do the same.


     


    You asked in this forum a few days ago, if we wanted to know how is it to be a quadriplegia. Well..yes. ...I want to know.


     


    I am afraid the answer is impossible for me to understand. Why do I say this? Well, I am not one. I am a care giver..and I realize is not the same. However, I want to hear about it.


     


    I want to know how it is possible to triumph despite the limitations. I have read about much despair and pain from many of us. It is all ok.. we are all hurting in one way or another. I hope however, we can all also share the hope....


     


    Pain and hope, I am not saying I know the answers because I do not..But, I know these two words really summarize our existence.  The question is... which one are we going to focus on? I want to choose hope. How about you and all others reading this post?


     


    Is life worth chosing for hope?  


      

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    Pain and hope. Believe it or not, you can do both at the same time. You can have hope that one day you will be able to live with pain and still experience joy in your life.



    I have a story for you Ivonne (but what's new?)

    This story takes place in ancient times and there are three stonecutters sitting next to one another cunning stunts in order to build a temple.

    A child went up to the first stonecutter and said "what are you doing?" His response "what does it look like I'm doing, I am cutting round stones into square ones. I do this all day every day year in and year out" he said angrily.

    So the child went to the second one and asked the same question: "I am doing this tedious job in order to feed and clothe my family."

    Still curious, the child went to the third one who said: "I am honored to be building this temple that people will come for 1000 years to pray."



    I hated this disability and I hated my body. I felt no one would ever really understand me again.

    And then I just found both this disability and my body a burden, but I didn't feel hatred. And I felt no one would understand me again, but I felt sad about that -- no longer scared.



    And now, this disability still takes its toll on my life, but I am grateful for all of the doors it has opened for me and how it has enabled me to be more compassionate. I am grateful to my body for working so hard to stay alive.

    And I still feel no one will ever fully understand me again. I am no longer sad about that, but very comfortable with it.



    There was a psychologist years ago that said: "the divine child is always an orphan." At a certain level, the deepest levels inside, we cannot be known -- only to ourselves and whatever higher power we might believe in.

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    And so they came for 1,000 years..And they found favor from the King. Goodness and mercy followed them.


     


    How about this....


     


    I try to keep this in perspective and not be consumed by the daily struggles of paralysis in our lives.


     


    Dr Dan.


     


    "The divine child is always an orphan" This is so true in so many levels.


     


    Yes.. We are alone to come to understand our souls, to find its purpose and destiny. And so we struggle for the answers on this journey we are part of. In the solitude of our thoughts, in meditation and/or prayers, Can we see the bigger picture like the stonecutter did? 


     


    I am searching!


     

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    My wise old grandfather would have said: "oy veh, stop searching already come and have dinner!" At the time I just thought he was a little obsessed with food like the rest of my family. But now that I think about that phrase 50 years later, there is great wisdom.



    I'm not sure I know the difference between searching and striving, but I know that if we do it too much or too long, it can have all sorts of negative health effects and put someone at risk for depression.



    So my grandfather would say don't work so hard, come feed yourself. And I would say the same thing. Feed yourself, feed your soul. Love who you love, and love them a little bit more tomorrow. Then think of someone you don't have strong feelings about -- the person who delivers your mail or pumps your gas -- think about them and try to generate caring feelings as you wish for them happy lives.



    Find joy in your life and do it every day. It doesn't matter whether that joy comes from prayer, nature, any soap opera or breaking bread with a dear friend, as long as it brings you happiness. Make that happen every day.



    When we suffer, searching is inevitable. But ultimately what we are searching for is happiness or well-being.



    And sometimes when we stop searching, we find that well-being has been there all along, we just didn't notice because we were working so hard!
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    Dear Dr Dan,


     


    Your Grandfather was indeed a wise man.


     


    I have for the past 19 months tried to find the answer to the question. Why?


     


    Your words actually made me realize the answer to this question is not as important as.. ...What now?


     


    Denial is often where we go after an unexpected change like this one. We get too involved trying to find a reason, a purpose, an answer.  Ultimately, is up to us to embrace this new way of living and rejoice in it and yes... accept it!


     


    It seems that perhaps, I might be trying too hard "when I might only need to stop and smell the roses."


     


    My best, Ivonne


      


     


        


      

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    Ivonne, your signature line is the classic one from Forrest Gump about life being like a box of chocolates.

    Like most living mammals, I love chocolates. But I remember the time I was a child and bit into one at my grandmother's house and it was filled with bugs! That little trauma didn't turn me off to chocolate, but I do have more respect for the creativity of bugs.



    And speaking of life and bugs, I just found out that I have E. coli in my bladder. This is my fourth go-round with E. coli and it seems to have the life force of those bugs. Some of my doctors might argue that they have colonized and I have to find a way to make peace with them. Okay, I figure if I can make peace with my demons and the critical judge that lives in my head, I can certainly do the same with some bacteria hanging out in my bladder.



    But of course having a spinal cord injury complicates things. So these little bugs make my dysreflexia worse. Not good. And because I am 30 years post injury, my autonomic nervous system does not have the stability it once had. So when I get an infection, my blood pressure is go all over the place and can rise with the slightest stimulation like a noisy restaurant or too many potholes on the road.



    And being the wise and highly evolved psychologist that I am accused of being, I feel sad, nervous and a smattering of self-pity. In order to take care of my nervous system, I canceled appointments and spend more time in bed reading and watching my Phillies lose baseball games.



    And then I realized something -- I actually enjoy spending extra time in bed reading as my regular life is so hectic. And when my pressure stabilizes, I so enjoy being out with friends and returning to my busy schedule.



    None of that happened until I stopped fighting with these changes in my life. Peace doesn't come when we have won wars, peace only comes when we stop fighting.
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    Hello dr.dan

    Thank you so much for sharing grandpa?s saying. i think it could be the quote of the day.

    You know, giving hope and trying to make disappointed people keep their hope alive, ought to be both searching (trying to find a cure ) and asking them to search about their being. we always search things we already have .i like your suggestion and to understand it better, I add :lets improve our faith. When we?re asked if we believe in GOD, we all say yes and then overlook it so we ignore it without knowing that. ?Stay and Live in GOD? Jesus says. It means something? yes it does. It means GOD is with us where ever we are. We are surrounded by it but we don?t believe in it that?s why Jesus invites us to eat bread as his flesh and drink wine as blood, why??!!

    Because non of us believe in GOD?s presence. All prophets are still hoping that mankind come to the point by noting GOD?s presence. When we?re gonna start? Lets live and do what ever we want but , in GOD. Lets note it?s presence, It?s right here , just pay attention ,at work, at home , on journey , when we eat or drink or breath in and out, every single moment in all. This is the only way our mind and other aspects will live in peace at any condition. Please note that when we talk about GOD we?re talking about our truth. Reality must make connection with its truth that?s a must for us or we cannot live well. Lets do it if we want to live the best. no way?

    In GOD all relationships between girls and boys will come to marriage , in GOD we?ll work better ,in GOD our mind works great, in GOD we?ll get that we?re all one, GOD is the home, country, moment, beloved person or thing we?re looking for. Lets live in it and join it easily after death or we?ll be in difficulties in the world and after death. Our mind will continue life as >. That would be our soul carring the the main Soul(our truth=GOD)?.Well enough for now I think I hope you like it. ?I?m behind the door knoking on it? what do you want?

    ?I want you to live in me? . well whats the big deal? Whats the profit? ?I have all you need cause I?m your truth?? what should I do? ?open the door?. How? ?just note my presence and never let go?. Ok I?ll do as you wish. ?thank you my beloved Keep it till you meet me?.

    Is it possible? ?yes ,you will get beautiful inside enough, then at the moment you will see the mirror in front of you to see your truth.? Ok bye, ?there?s only HI while you?re in me, stay then?. Right , come in. ?HI , THANKS FOR LETING ME IN AND WORK ON YOU? . HI??..you?re welcome?..

    This is the way I find joy and think everyone could find it.



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    i find when i'm too stressed, overwhelmed, exhausted, painful, bummed...

    i write a gratitude list & keep writing until i settle down & become grateful for my situation. peace fills me & my mind clears. i can think straight again.


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    Dear Dr Dan,


     


    I hope you are feeling better.  You are truly needed here; take care of your self.. please!


     


    About my signature line from Forrest Gump.


     


    One night after a typical busy day... I was finally in bed and Forrest Gump was on. By coincidence it was the scene when Forrest was in the bus stop explaining what his mom told him about life...being like a box of chocolates "because you never know what you are going to get".


     


    I find this to be so simple and yet so true..


     


    "Peace doesn't come when we have won wars; peace only comes when we stop fighting."  I like it!! But,I am not there yet. I am fighting each and every day, hoping this will not be permanent. 


     


    Words are important, is the matter of fact God is the living word. Lets read Genesis. Without words nothig would have been possible. But because He spoke, it happened! we happened! So on this 4th of July when we are celebrating freedom. I will speak the words and declare. " A cure is at hand and we will be free." 


     


    Happy 4th!!


     


     


     


     


     

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    Dear ivonne at the beginning(there is no beginning no end) ,God loves all the time. God loved and then everything happened(wisdom-words-option and all its carrier needs on the journey that the love caused it).God loved and manifested and this manifestation goes back to God when die. By Process. God is absolute beauty and goodness(these words must be defined of course) whole beauty and goodness cannot stop manifesting and all we see now is just one manifestation of God that has come by one Big Bang of endless big bangs. All We observe is just one apple of a big tree??..



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    Hi Randy,


    He is the the Alpha and the Omega, the First and the Last,  the Beginning and the End and through Him all things are possible.  He is the bright Morning Star. Because of His promises, we are here and we have Joy knowing that we are not alone.    


    My best Ivonne

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    Hi Randy,


    Thank you.... it sounds like such a good thing.


    When I have 20 minutes to spend on myself,  I will  definately try this.. It sounds smothing to the soul!! God knows I need this..For now I will forward this to my husband, he on the other hand,  has too much time on his hands... waiting for me to be able to have my work managed  (I  work from home, connected to my office..blessings for sure..)  so  then...finally.. I have an 1 hour to help him get out of bed, do the passive exercises to his lower body and the hygine needed.   Let me explain... no help here..not from the insurance company,  the goverment or family. It is only me...


    But, he can definately do this. Thank you again.   One day, I soon will be able to take the time for me... What a treat!!!.. Thank you, I  look forward to this... next year medicare keeps in for him.  I am hoping this means, I will be able to get help and once again I will be able to think of me first, at least some of the time. God... I hope so.... family always came first for me...but, I sure had time for me before..no longer...I am afraid....


    My best to you, you sound like a great human being!...please keep your postings coming.


    It is good to have your input.


    Regards always, Ivonne   


     

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    hi ivonne

    yes .great.

    now that you believe in GOD this much,i have a complementary alternative medication which i've tested and it had good results.i suggest to your husband ,you,everyone in this cummunity and in whole wold.its free.i beg you to do this at any time of day you like to.continuely of course.it works i promis.ok

    just close your eyes dont concentrate-imagin-dream anything but only surrender in God's presenc as you said God is here with us ok?so go on try it for at least 20 minutes a day ,any houre of day night...

    you said he(she-it,no deffrence) is with us ,so lets pay attention to its presence .GOD says : today i hear you and i 'm with you now to help.so why we cannot get its help? becouse we leave it and forget what we asked him to do for us.we never wait for answer truly am i right?so lets sit or lie down with cloesd or opened eyes,paying attention to his presence (this is surrendering i said about) and see what goes on in our bodies. we will do this if we really believe in God other wise we'r not believers.this is what juses wished everyone know about(surrender when you are doing preyers). dear dr dan plz you do this too i promise your pressure will get better first.we get somthing or not,is not important the point is we live in god this way

    .thank youuuuu
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    I've talked before in this forum about my little friend named Jake who lives in my house. He is two years old and the most delightful little human in the world. he calls me dd, and he giggles with joy when he hears my wheelchair coming.

    Well two weeks ago we got an additional family member -- a seven year old Golden retriever named Maggie. She is a sweet girl who only wants to play (retrieve). And Jake loves to throw the ball and watch her catch it and he has grown to love Maggie.

    This morning before my first patient, I sat outside my back door and watched the two of them play for about 20 minutes. Jake would throw the ball and went Maggie brought it back, he would clap and laugh. Over and over they did this except when Jake got the ball and ran in circles with Maggie following him.

    I watched this being fully conscious of how special it was. And when Jake's mother came out, I said to her "what have I ever done to deserve what I am watching now?"

    We often ask the question why about negative things; "why this adversity, why this suffering?" But fair is fair and less ask the same question when we see someone we love or watch the seasons change
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