Not sure how to answer your issues. It seems to me that you knew what you were getting into. I don't mean that in an accusing way. But it seems to me that now all you are doing is saving money. My suggestion (as you have seen ne state before in other responses) is that you hire somebody to take your place. It's hard to be both caregiver and amorous partner. And as for the kids- get them to pitch in. Jeez- they've got a lot more energy than you do, and they are living off your home situation. Let them do a little to pay for their keep. It will make them better, and more understanding of others for the hard work and the things they get to experience. If they don't want to participate in the caregiving, then they should learn to cook and clean, and mow.