Hi Dan,

We have posted a lot about acceptance, adjustment, and fighting with the injustice of SCI. Do you think the way a person was paralyzed plays any role in their ability to find peace with th...

Well Spouse is really a great group. I would encourage all partners caring for an ill spouse to take a look and join the group and the discussions.

Well Spouse does have a significant online pres...

Jeff and Joe,

We wives could do all this before the paralysis, we were just training you to do it. When my husband and I first got married, I cut the yard in circles, designed the Purdue P in the ...

Another question or thought. You said “Pets force of us to care for vulnerable beings who bring us joy and require our care in order to survive.” I agree with that in principle, but what...

Hi Sandra,

I think there is always hope. Doctors can’t predict the future. I think they try to give you the best prediction they have, but my experience is that it usually leans toward the ...

jaylav,

Really sorry to hear about your brother and his difficulty with HO. My husband is a high level quad and also developed HO about 3 months after his injury. He was in SCI rehab at the time ...

Dan,

I am trying those exercises. Better give me another week before I make a report. I also have the book, “Full Catastrophe Living”. So far I’m just sleeping with it under my...

Hi Shannon,

Your kind words do help. Thanks. Sometimes it is difficult for me to tell what he wants for us. In fact on Saturday, I fixed myself some lunch and sat down at the kitchen table to ta...

I guess that is a part of being the spouse to a quadriplegic that many people fail to consider or even realize. That fact is I do feel guilty enjoying things in life that my husband can’t. I f...

My husband is a C3-C4 ASIA A quad. He also suffered a TBI in the accident that paralyzed him. He has a trach and essentially no movement below the neck. He requires 24/7 skilled care mostly due to ...

I took a little caregiving break the other weekend. Something I rarely do and really this was the first time in 9 years since my husband’s SCI that I went away solely for myself. It was someth...

I often have a hard time with this topic, God, healing, faith, God’s will.

When my husband was first injured, I met this wife whose husband was a long time quad. She was whacky and made me so...